24 hours in Umtata

Two weeks after my vacation in Cape Town. Out of boredom in King William's Town I randomly decided to take a roadtrip to Umtata, all by my lonely self, of cause. My very first time in Umtata, let alone the Transkei area of the Eastern Cape. I booked into a BnB right opposite the Golf Course and tried to mingle with people by visiting a few well known spots. The highlight of my trip is having to meet the most adorable moffie in the world. Cute bottoms are always a treasure my guy.

Drug AB - USE

The general use/consumption of illegal substances such as alcohol, drugs or prescription meds (just to mention a few) happens almost everywhere in the world. This habit certainly isn't a racial nor an African kind of thing but is rather, in my opinion, a general stubbornness and a serious lack of self-control, purpose, confidence, ambition and most of all a lack of understanding amongst our modern day youth. We are nowadays fortunate in that we live in a society that allows us to be independent and free, and because we are spoilt for choice in making major decisions in our lives – we often make decisions that sometimes make us vulnerable or more exposed to danger and negativity, to not only ourselves but the people close to us as well. These traits and habits ultimately derive from certain individuals who don’t possess the simple skill of overcoming temptation in order to fight and not allow temptation from all the things of this world to be in control or win over your life.  The word abuse consists of the letters ‘ab’ which work as a prefix to the word abnormal – in other words abnormal use. Our modern day youth needs to understand how drugs are nothing more than just mood and mind altering substances – that effortlessly exercise and train your body into adjusting to an abnormal functioning or regularity – that commands a negative influence into your life; breaking down and reducing your value or your life to zero or nothing, equivalent to just a useless form. We need to also understand the risks; drugs influence crime and drugs kill your ambition – unknowingly losing your connection to your soul. You're literally selling your soul to devil and losing complete focus on what your purpose is to the world and to society. You miserably are abused because the more that you smoke, the more you will struggle. Nothing positive ever comes out of being a victim of drug abuse and living life abnormally only permits abnormal behavior,  You end up feeling abused and are deprived of being the person you were destined to be - you end up not knowing whether you’re getting better or just being more and more immune to the drugs. In order to be completely focused we should at least be able to dominate or command an influence over our own lives, constantly maintaining a level eye on everything in the world and around us; this could help make constructive decisions that add more positivity into our lives. You become someone else when under the influence of illegal substances and no one ever understands someone who doesn’t understand themselves – you’ll only end up hating the person you’ve become to escape what you hated being. Honour yourself the privilege of staying true to your background, your purpose and what’s most important in your life. It’s your life, and its entirely all up to you.

Let's capture the moment

I’ve been thinking about what my first blog post for February 2019 should be and, while there’s plenty pictures to post from the holidays, for some reason I just haven’t got round to even transferring all the images from my camera to my computer. I guess work just took over and I’ve been delaying the things that make me happy as a result. Blogging is one of these things but more often than not, there’s very little time in our busy lives to dedicate to the things we truly care about. I’ve decided that 2019 is going to be that year where I put me first. The plan, which I can happily report is in motion as we speak, is to start dedicating more time to the things that make me smile and less time to the things that piss me off and make me feel like I’m delaying my own dreams and aspirations in favour of keeping those around me feeling happy and secure. It's a slow process but one that will surely bring me great reward in the long run. I'm confident it will. So, yes… While this post is overly delayed, I just wanted to put this out there. Maybe you, too, should think about making this your “ME” year. Discard your fears, take the plunge. Choose happiness.

Birthday weekend in Durbs

My birthday weekend actually didn't really pan out the way I had planned it to be. Busy as always, a part of me dragged the entire trip of having to be in Durban by myself lonely self. But I kept telling myself the entire morning 'not to feel this heartbreak' And guess what? I had a pretty relaxed time Ethekwini once again. Booked into a hotel in North Beach, I spent the five days willingly laying inside the white sheets of my hotel room bed and ordering room service for all the meals of the day. This was totally unexpected, I kid you not. I went out to a few unusual Pubs around the north beach area, walking distance from Blue Suites Hotel.  I got to meet new friends, eat the 'famous' mutton curry bunny chow and enjoyed a night out at the infamous Cubanna in Florida.

 On my way back home I was happy to see the only girl that could ever, try, turn a guy like me straight (in South Africa) - miss Boity Thulo. As we were walking out of the aircraft and walking into the doors of Lanseria Airport. I felt emped up with love and confidence from being around my own space and genuinely feeling happy about that. Having nobody there to join me on my birthday dinner now felt really positive. 

As a twenty seven year old recoving drug addict, I sometimes feel pressure to sustain a concrete identity of who I really am to people in society. I call it living a suffering lavish lifestyle and ultimately, I'm all about my happiness and having a good time right now in my life. Walking my journey is what's most important. Ya'll should always know how much I pride myself about my culture and my ethnic group.

Ngilindebele mina. I am destined for greatness, ekhaya akuhlala!

Someone who is inspired by the weather

The weather this past week in Johannesburg has been pretty bipolar. Fluctuating and changing each and every day- one night its raining, another day its windy, then another day the sun comes out so on. Im really not enjoying this sudden gloomy winter weather- more especially in summer, we shouldnt be experiencing rain and such terrible cloudy and grey days during the day. Or should we? I feel completely uninspired in this state of weather because all I tend to think about is staying indoors and making sure Im comfortable and warm. So when I do go out I just throw on a combination of strange things like boots, a pair of jeans and a leather jacket. I always tend to think about keeping warm more than I think about looking good. Fact is, any day when I'm not having to cover up is a great day for me to look good - so I can also feel good. That's just me! 

I honestly want to start feeling my mood once again bright, inspired and chipper by the simple radiant light of sunshine. That's my leeway to making people understand how simple I am in the way in which I dress and carry myself . I want my readers to know everything about my style evolution and how grown and funky its become, more especially being known as the 'ordinary' guy who appears to look dapper in clothes which are considered affordable by most people.

Living in a new age. In my own way.

I just got back from my birthday weekend in Durban and let me say I have in depth mixed emotions about how realisticly legalistic zulu people are. That topic thou,  will be a blog on its  own - together with my entire experience of ethekwini, north beach and of cause turning a year old. I'm only a few months since I've moved out of home and my mind has been actively spinning with thoughts of the life I lived under the influence of so many mood and mind altering substances. It’s hard having to be back to the exact same community that nearly killed me, literally. But let me tell you, Facing your “demons” is something we all have to do at some point. We must confront the things that plague us– our insecurities, shortcomings, and the sneaking suspicion that maybe we are not as good of people as we play ourselves to be. I just knew it would be best for me to leave home in order to face all my demons - head on, with the help and support of the people who love me the most. Family. If I were to somehow measure my well-being and the general state in which my life was in at the time, it would've been without a doubt been equivalent to zero or even close to absolutely nothing. I know for a fact I can't go back to doing the same things I did in the past. So I've put together a relapse prevention to help me stay fully focused on pursuing a much more meaningful existence.

This is a list of things that will possibly help me along my path.

·       Using positive affirmations

·       Staying active and focused

·       Not go into tough situations by myself

·       Start each day and end each day with a session at the gym OR any other recovery orientated activity I might have in mind

·       Talk to others about my recovery as much as I can

·       Prepare for the most challenging situations if I can’t avoid it

Mlambo Family Slaying?

This colab with Kyle was amazing!! Especially using my big sister Princess Alisinka Mlambo and nephew Prince Uncuthu as our models. Kyle is proving to me by the day how superb he is in his job. Its also nice when you can work with someone you're also dearly close to. I am giving you a bit of who I am by the day. And these are direct members of my family that you should know. They are my pillar of strength, my travel partners - I have nothing but unconditional love. Anyway, scroll down and Happy Decembering!